Coping With The Death Of A Loved One

How do I cope with the death of a loved one? There are two main ways I cope: writing and comforting others. Then there are a bunch of secondary ways I cope as well, which I will list at the end.

For those of you who don’t know, my Grandma passed away recently. On the night of her death, I started coping by writing a “eulogy,” though more likely the word is “tribute” to my Grandma. You can read it here:

http://mutanatia.wordpress.com/2014/02/28/lessons-from-my-grandma/

The second phase of coping was comforting others. My cousin was hurting the most at the reception back at my family’s house. I made sure to give her lots of hugs, reminisce about Grandma with her, and show her the tribute above.

There are also several other ways I cope. These are still ongoing, and it seems like I come up with a new one every day to try. The key with coping, though, is to find what works for you. Here are a few of them, listed out in no particular order:

  • Hugging stuffed animals
  • Laying a crossword puzzle book on her casket/coffin
  • Talking to others about her (and grinning from ear-to-ear in the process!)
  • Feeling “weepy-eyed” (I don’t – physically – cry, but the feeling is as if I might as well be doing so)
  • Sleeping a lot (stress does take a toll on you)

These are just some of the many, many ways I have coped so far with the loss of my Grandma. I hope this gives you some ideas for when you have to cope with the death of a loved one as well.

GREG TRUTNER

3 thoughts on “Coping With The Death Of A Loved One

  1. Our grandma was amazing wasn’t she. She loved as all so very much and now we have a short little angel that is busy watching over us ( she gets breaks once in a while when George is watching so that is when she is doing her crossword puzzles). Thanks foe being there for her and for me when I needed a hug. -cousin Lisa 🙂

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