How do I cope with the death of a loved one? There are two main ways I cope: writing and comforting others. Then there are a bunch of secondary ways I cope as well, which I will list at the end.
For those of you who don’t know, my Grandma passed away recently. On the night of her death, I started coping by writing a “eulogy,” though more likely the word is “tribute” to my Grandma. You can read it here:
The second phase of coping was comforting others. My cousin was hurting the most at the reception back at my family’s house. I made sure to give her lots of hugs, reminisce about Grandma with her, and show her the tribute above.
There are also several other ways I cope. These are still ongoing, and it seems like I come up with a new one every day to try. The key with coping, though, is to find what works for you. Here are a few of them, listed out in no particular order:
- Hugging stuffed animals
- Laying a crossword puzzle book on her casket/coffin
- Talking to others about her (and grinning from ear-to-ear in the process!)
- Feeling “weepy-eyed” (I don’t – physically – cry, but the feeling is as if I might as well be doing so)
- Sleeping a lot (stress does take a toll on you)
These are just some of the many, many ways I have coped so far with the loss of my Grandma. I hope this gives you some ideas for when you have to cope with the death of a loved one as well.